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some passing thoughts.
Aug. 16th, 2010 03:08 pm![[personal profile]](http://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
hebinekohimeI don't think gender can be summed up by our gonads, or by hormonal chemistry, or by fat distribution. All those are accessory to gender, and they can be added in or left behind depending on personal need.
I don't want to pass as one thing or the other. I identify in a number of different ways. As a geek girl, and as a person brought up male. As a pet/sub. As something undesignated. All those are me, and they all have their place.
My sexuality is an important part of my identity, but it doesn't need to be on an official document. I'm apathetic to whether strangers clock me as male or female. Neutral pronouns, even just the singular 'they', are awesome. To me, 'she' feels cloying and oppressive. 'he' feels too limited. I want people who are close to me to know this, but I don't care if the whole world does.
I don't want a cissexist world, or a world that constantly demands affirmations of your gender. Bathrooms should be neutral. Period.
It's hard enough work to figure out your own identity, so society should be easygoing and fluid, rather than locked in to hard categories. Female, male, trans, even queer or androgynous come with a set of expectations. When those expectations are on us, I think we can feel afraid to experiment.
I don't want to pass as one thing or the other. I identify in a number of different ways. As a geek girl, and as a person brought up male. As a pet/sub. As something undesignated. All those are me, and they all have their place.
My sexuality is an important part of my identity, but it doesn't need to be on an official document. I'm apathetic to whether strangers clock me as male or female. Neutral pronouns, even just the singular 'they', are awesome. To me, 'she' feels cloying and oppressive. 'he' feels too limited. I want people who are close to me to know this, but I don't care if the whole world does.
I don't want a cissexist world, or a world that constantly demands affirmations of your gender. Bathrooms should be neutral. Period.
It's hard enough work to figure out your own identity, so society should be easygoing and fluid, rather than locked in to hard categories. Female, male, trans, even queer or androgynous come with a set of expectations. When those expectations are on us, I think we can feel afraid to experiment.
